Alone and extravagant or together and memorable.

Life can give you lemons, strawberries or even chocolate cheesecake but if you don't have someone to share it with you are pretty much only going to enjoy it for that few minutes of eating it. You see, people ( or animals actually) are social species and we attach meaning to everything we do but even more so if we do it with somebody we know or care about.

There's seldom a memory you vigorously remember unless that memory contains somebody you share it with and with whom you could relive it. Being and doing things on your own is good when it comes to getting to know yourself and but in order to create memories that would last a life time a friend or loved one is needed. The reason, I feel, is that you would always be reminded of the small things in everyday life, in the conversations you have with people you know or even don't know (I get that a lot) or you see something and you will just be reminded. We are social beings. It's how we are wired. It's why we build networks, friendships, relationships, partnerships and communities. It's a commonality between two or more people, a story, a moment of joy and happiness or a moment of stress and anger or even grief and hardship.it's what makes us incredible and different... Experiences that becomes memories.

I believe we were created to share life with someone, with a friend or a lover or from time to time with a complete stranger. And something's like sitting on the toilet are meant to be done alone but other times it's better doing things with somebody you share some sort of connection. We hold on to memories so tightly because memories are the only things that doesn't change even though everyone else does.

I have been in Korea for 5 month now and yes traveling looks and sounds extremely extravagent and fantastic but it can also become the loneliest place in the world. Looking back the first thing I grabbed onto was at least having a friend with whom I could talk and discuss matters, who can show me around town, who can teach me a thing or two about life in Korea and who could help me out in times of need. But not just that, it was also to have a friend with whom I could share this experience with. Looking back now I realize that it formed  a support system whilst I'm here. Something I had back at home. But not only that. It was somebody I would like to call a "memory keeper".

But sometimes you have to be alone and you have to take the journey to realize what you had and what actually matters in the end. A lot of the time we take for granted what we had in the past, we take for granted that some thing's will just always stay the same even though we aren't really working on it. We take the very things that makes us happy and feeling wanted and loved for granted. We take opportunities for granted. We need friends and we need family and sooner or later in life most people need a family of their own. And the only reason why is to build and share memories. To share moments that would last a lifetime. 

Not all memory keepers stay in your life forever but those who does stay are the guardians of the memories worth keeping and they also own the writing pad where new memories can be written. With that said I want to say thank you to those who kept on writing on that memory pad. There are still many more stories to come. 

"Moments grow into becoming memories"- Me